September 25, 2017 Evie 0Comment

Q. When sending party invitations, is there a polite way to state that there just isn’t a place for children at the gathering?


A. The easiest way to avoid having children show up at an event where they’re not really welcome is to address invitations to the adults. So instead of “The Miller Family” use “Mark and Lisa Miller.” Most parents will understand that the event is adults-only if the invitation is specifically addressed to them.

However, if you find that people are RSVP’ing as a family, it’s okay to clarify that you can’t accommodate children at your event. You can say something like, “I’m so sorry for the confusion, but we’re hoping to keep this particular party to adults only. We’d love to plan another time to see you as a family though!” This way, you’re not giving your guests the impression that you can’t stand their kids; you’re just clarifying that this isn’t an event meant for them, because let’s face it, kids don’t belong at all events.

So what if you’re not doing written invitations? That’s when it’s best to pick up the phone. Don’t do email invitations that can’t be addressed. Instead, call friends with young children and extend the invitation with the caveat that you’ll understand if they can’t attend because of childcare arrangements.

“Hey Lisa, we’re having a little get-together for the grown-ups next week, and we’d love for you and Mark to come. We’re planning a barbecue for Saturday night around 7 pm. I know that might interfere with the kids’ bedtime, but if you think you can sneak away, we’d love to see you!”

Hope that helps!

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