Evie 28Comment

Originally published in April 2012

Being a SAHM is hard work. Most people are willing to acknowledge this fact, despite all the partisan bickering that has put SAHMs in the spotlight in the last week. But there are also lots of things that I love about being at home, and sometimes I need to remind myself of these things when we’re having a tough day or I think about the career (and the paycheck) I left behind. So, below is a list of the things I love most about being a SAHM (not a judgment of anyone who has chosen a different path!).

  1. First and foremost, I get to be with my baby all day long! Although this aspect of being a SAHM can also be completely exhausting, it’s the reason I chose to be at home: I get to see my child grow and develop right before my eyes, and as a direct consequence of what I’m teaching her! I love being able to see A learn a new word, grow more confident navigating her way around the playground, or interact with her friends. I’m here all the time, so I never miss a thing.
  2. I never dread getting up in the morning. When I was working, every now and then, I would have a day I really wasn’t looking forward to, because of a meeting, a review with my boss, or some other issue. But being a SAHM, I never really feel that way. Even when I know I have a tough day ahead of me because of something like shots at A’s doctor’s appointment or travel interrupting her schedule, I’m able to see the bigger picture: that she needs me even more that day. Having my daughter as motivation helps me to be the best parent I can be.
  3. Flexibility, flexibility, flexibility. Yes, schedules are super important for babies, but really, as a SAHM you have lots of flexibility. For instance, some days when I’m just feeling a little out of sorts, I might decide to stay home in comfy clothes and no makeup, and enjoy A’s company. Other days, when I’m particularly motivated, I might run out to the bank, the grocery store, and the library, or head into the city for an adventure. Generally, I have a list of things I want to accomplish over the course of the week, but it doesn’t really matter when I do them.
  4. Speaking of adventures, with the beautiful spring weather we’ve been having, I’m eager to get outside, and I can! Sometimes, as I’m taking a leisurely walk along the Potomac River or the Tidal Basin on the National Mall, pushing A in her stroller, I feel a momentary twinge of guilt that I can be out enjoying myself when my husband is stuck in an office building. Being a SAHM means I can arrange my schedule so I can get outside for fresh air almost whenever I want to (or whenever A demands to be released to play!), and for that I’m truly grateful!
  5. Here’s another issue of flexibility that fellow teachers will understand: I actually get to use the bathroom when I feel like it! This may sound silly, but when I was working at 39 weeks pregnant, I simply couldn’t run off to the bathroom when I needed to since I had a classroom of thirty 16-year-olds just waiting for an opportunity to start some trouble. Now, I have the pleasure of taking bathroom breaks as needed.
  6. I don’t miss having deadlines! One of the most stressful things about working, to me, was deadlines. I am not one of those people who works well “under the gun,” so constantly having lesson plans due and papers to grade in a rush were huge points of stress in my life. Now, I almost never have anything resembling a deadline, unless you consider an empty refrigerator or an overflowing hamper to be one :)
  7. You always have company. While I was pregnant, I couldn’t really conceptualize that my daughter wouldn’t just be some inanimate object that required constant care; instead, she would be my little companion. Sometimes it feels silly, but I really do talk to her as I would an adult: I tell her about our plans for the day; I discuss our choices at the grocery store; I ask for her help tidying up around the house. And it’s certainly not a one-way street. Of course, babies always make their thoughts and demands known, too!
  8. You have time to build amazing friendships with other SAHMs. Once you get hooked up with a mommy group, you can really build such long-lasting and close friendships as you share similar struggles and joys. You can also find other moms to hang with at parks and playgrounds, Gymboree, or out in your neighborhood.
  9. Being at home all day provides you with choices you wouldn’t have at work. I can eat whatever I want because I have the entire stock of my kitchen available to me. My outfit isn’t really working out; I can go change. I have a headache/cough/stomach ache? I don’t need to go asking all my coworkers for the appropriate remedy. I’ve got it in my medicine cabinet.
  10. Nap time is whatever you want it to be. As I sit and compile this list during A’s nap, I’m grateful to have a few minutes to sit quietly and do what I want to do. Some days that means reading or catching up on a show I missed last night. Some days I’m more productive, and I get some cleaning done. When I’m really sleep deprived, I take my own nap. I’m just grateful to have a quiet little break during the day.

– Evanthia

What do you like best about being at home? Did I forget anything?

28 thoughts on “10 Best Things about Being a Stay-at-home Mom

  1. Yes! I love this list. I’d also like to add that during the workday nothing is ever crowded. You don’t have to battle the crowds on the playground or in the grocery store. The other thing is that you have total freedom to make crazy decisions about your kid and how they will be raised. You can raise them gluten-free, cloth-diapered, co-sleeping, covered in dirt and mud and it’s totally cool because you’re the mom.

    1. You’re so right! I forgot some very important points, especially that things aren’t crowded during the workday. Every once in a while, I make the mistake of visiting the grocery store over the weekend, and I can’t believe the crowds! Thanks for the additions :)

  2. Yes! I love this list. I’d also like to add that during the workday nothing is ever crowded. You don’t have to battle the crowds on the playground or in the grocery store. The other thing is that you have total freedom to make crazy decisions about your kid and how they will be raised. You can raise them gluten-free, cloth-diapered, co-sleeping, covered in dirt and mud and it’s totally cool because you’re the mom.

    1. You’re so right! I forgot some very important points, especially that things aren’t crowded during the workday. Every once in a while, I make the mistake of visiting the grocery store over the weekend, and I can’t believe the crowds! Thanks for the additions :)

  3. Definitely the best part is that I get to spend the whole day with my daughter and watch her grow up.
    Also, I am thankful that I get to raise her and give her all the attention she needs.

      1. Exactly! I know it is hard for my husband when I tell him about all the new things she learned and all the firsts. He hates missing so much. On the other hand, he admits that he could never stay at home with her. He is usually exhausted when he has a day off or after the weekends. :)

        1. So funny! My husband says he’d LOVE to stay home with our daughter now, but if you’d asked him before we had a baby, he would have said he wouldn’t enjoy it at all. Oh, how things change once this little person comes along and melts your heart!

          1. Ha, it’s the exact opposite for my husband. He always wanted to be a stay-at-home-dad but then things worked out differently. Now he’s glad he didn’t do it although he does miss her. When I have my hair appointment, I usually get desperate messages from him after one hour. She is just such a handful and difficult to calm down. ;)

  4. Definitely the best part is that I get to spend the whole day with my daughter and watch her grow up.
    Also, I am thankful that I get to raise her and give her all the attention she needs.

  5. I love your perspective and positive take on stepping away from the current debate hype and just appreciating what you’ve got. Go you! :)

  6. I love your perspective and positive take on stepping away from the current debate hype and just appreciating what you’ve got. Go you! :)

  7. Wow, I so relate to this list. I’m a former HS teacher turned SAHM. It wasn’t easy at first, but you have reminded me of why this is right for us, at least for now. My son is one-we just moved from Alexandria, VA to Denver, CO so I’m still working on the building friendships part. I would say that is the tough part– getting connected with a community. It takes time, but I am confident that it will happen.

    1. Fantastic! I knew there would be other teachers out there who knew what I was talking about!!

      Good luck with getting established in Denver. I’m sure it will take time, but as spring and summer come on, and the kids want to be outside more, I bet you’ll be finding lots of other moms enjoying the beautiful weather with their kids. Have you tried finding a mommy group on Meetup.com? That’s where I found mine in VA. A quick search for groups in the Denver area shows there are 157!

  8. Wow, I so relate to this list. I’m a former HS teacher turned SAHM. It wasn’t easy at first, but you have reminded me of why this is right for us, at least for now. My son is one-we just moved from Alexandria, VA to Denver, CO so I’m still working on the building friendships part. I would say that is the tough part– getting connected with a community. It takes time, but I am confident that it will happen.

    1. Fantastic! I knew there would be other teachers out there who knew what I was talking about!!

      Good luck with getting established in Denver. I’m sure it will take time, but as spring and summer come on, and the kids want to be outside more, I bet you’ll be finding lots of other moms enjoying the beautiful weather with their kids. Have you tried finding a mommy group on Meetup.com? That’s where I found mine in VA. A quick search for groups in the Denver area shows there are 157!

  9. Exactly! I know it is hard for my husband when I tell him about all the new things she learned and all the firsts. He hates missing so much. On the other hand, he admits that he could never stay at home with her. He is usually exhausted when he has a day off or after the weekends. :)

    1. So funny! My husband says he’d LOVE to stay home with our daughter now, but if you’d asked him before we had a baby, he would have said he wouldn’t enjoy it at all. Oh, how things change once this little person comes along and melts your heart!

      1. Ha, it’s the exact opposite for my husband. He always wanted to be a stay-at-home-dad but then things worked out differently. Now he’s glad he didn’t do it although he does miss her. When I have my hair appointment, I usually get desperate messages from him after one hour. She is just such a handful and difficult to calm down. ;)

  10. I need to print this out and post it at my desk! Too often I allow myself to become overwhelmed and unappreciative of the opportunity I have been given to be home with my kids.

    Thanks for posting!!

  11. I need to print this out and post it at my desk! Too often I allow myself to become overwhelmed and unappreciative of the opportunity I have been given to be home with my kids.

    Thanks for posting!!

  12. Great list! I had no idea I wanted to stay home but the closer I got to the end of my pregnancy – and the more work started to suck, I thought maybe I should try – soooo glad I did!

  13. Great list! I had no idea I wanted to stay home but the closer I got to the end of my pregnancy – and the more work started to suck, I thought maybe I should try – soooo glad I did!

  14. I also love that I can sleep in! If my boys don’t wake up early, I dont have to get them up! Naps may be later, bedtime may be later but it makes the day go by so much faster!

    1. Excellent point about sleep! That kind of flexibility can change the whole course of the day, right??

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