At the end of a long day, once the kids are asleep, the dinner dishes are done, and you can finally unwind, do you seek the solitude of a book or a screen, or do you seek the company of your spouse?
I’m pretty sure that most of us, when we said our vows, didn’t imagine that someday our interactions would be almost exclusively confined to the details of parenting—scheduling, disciplining, negotiating…
But that’s where many of us with young kids find ourselves. So how do you connect with your spouse on a regular old weeknight, in that precious hour or two before you fall into bed yourselves?
As silly as it may sound, in our house, we’ve been binge-watching (or at least the parents’ equivalent). We find a popular series, usually on HBO, and watch an episode or two each night.
I usually take the liberty of pouring us some wine, and we bring our dessert over to the couch. We snuggle in a big fuzzy blanket this time of year, kick our feet up, and press play.
It all started with boredom (isn’t that how all binge-watching begins?). During those long summer months of reruns, we checked our On Demand menu and found that show everyone was talking about: Game of Thrones.
I was skeptical. I mean, dragons?? That’s just not my thing. But as popular as the show is, we agreed to watch an episode.
It wasn’t that bad, so we watched another, and another, and another. It turned into a race each night to see how much time we could squeeze in for Game of Thrones.
Sure, we were spending time together, but what’s most interesting is what happened after we turned off the TV. Each night, we’d find ourselves dissecting the show’s plot while we brushed our teeth:
- Were they really going to kill off Tyrian?
- Why would someone as dominant as Stannis Baratheon follow Melisandre?
- Was anyone ever going to take out that horrible Joffrey kid?
Is it trivial to spend our precious minutes together engrossed in television? Maybe, but it’s also damn good fun, and we both enjoy the escapism of it all. After all, they say the key to a healthy marriage is having fun together.
It’s just too bad we can’t agree on the same books to read.
Featured image source: HBO